I dislike most perfectionists. They get under my skin. To me they’re no more than simple fault-finders pointing out what’s wrong in everything that they see.
But the truth is I believe that we’re all perfectionists in our own little way.
As a computer programmer I hate seeing sloppy coding. As head of our worship team, I hate seeing spaghetti cabling. And more…
Chances are you are a perfectionist at something and if so then don’t fret because I think I figured out the secret to becoming the perfect perfectionist.
As a Christian I realized that the Christian God is the Master of all Perfectionists (I say Christian God because I’m in no position to talk about any other god). The bible tells us that God wants us to be spotless, blameless and most of all holy. God Himself is spotless, blameless and holy and so He has every right to tell us to be so but more than that He actually walked the talk not as God but as man.
He took the form of man in Jesus Christ and lived a life of perfection. He did openly express His distaste for sin but also showed us how to live a holy life.
Jesus also spoke of the “imperfect perfectionist in Matthew 23:2-4
“The scribes and the Pharisees sit on Moses’ seat, so do and observe whatever they tell you, but not the works they do. For they preach, but do not practice. They tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to move them with their finger.” ~ Matthew 23:2-4 ESV
And that’s it. That’s how we do it. That’s how we can be Perfect Perfectionists – by NOT doing what the scribes and Pharisees do. You see many perfectionists are like them, pointing out what’s wrong, preaching from their pedestal BUT not lifting a finger to actually help others become what they want them to be.
By all means point out what’s wrong BUT WITH LOVE also set an example on how to do it right. Don’t be like the scribes and the Pharisees but be like Jesus instead – walking the talk and helping others walk the talk as well.
We will never achieve anything just by pointing out what’s wrong and making the other person feel bad. We can only satisfy our perfectionist side if we have POSITIVELY influenced others to do as we do. If you can’t do that then you don’t have the right to impose perfectionism on others.
If you really want to be a perfectionist then might as well be a perfect one.